Posted by
William D. Dannenmaier on Monday, December 15, 2008 10:28:29 AM
Family Meanderings
By
William D. Dannenmaier
This morning, gossiping while I was getting dressed, my bride, huddled under the covers, said, “I was having some happy thoughts earlier this morning, but then I fell asleep again and now you’re up and getting dressed.” It shows what near thirty years of marriage will do to romance.
There are some nice things about being confined to house arrests in-between hospital and doctor visits. Son Stephen had planted all of the trees and bushes I wanted planted this fall, following my instructions. Three cooking cherry spouts are now planted down by the blacksmith shop and four blueberry bushes along the driveway in addition to a replacement butternut walnut in the center of the front yard.
Three or four years ago I planted a pecan tree, on my property between myself and the church. A neighbor, observing this, commented that I would never live to get pecans off of that tree. I said, “I know, but your grandchildren and perhaps mine will enjoy the pecans for years after I’m gone.
I’ve never understood people who plant and do things that are only for their own, immediate, good. I don’t expect to see cherries on those seedlings Stephen planted, which is why I had him plant them in places where some other person would be unlikely to cut them down, but the birds will enjoy them whether I do or not. I do, however, hope to get blueberries in two or three years and stop freeloading off of Bob and Kathy Connors’ bushes.
Sheila is busy hunting for a Bible given to Megaera by the church when she graduated from junior high school. Megaera can’t find it at her home. Sheila says she is positive she gave it to Megaera when Megaera moved, she knows because she didn’t want to because it is such a truly wonderful study Bible. She ended her conversation on the subject saying she had hoped Megaera wouldn’t take it, that it takes a truly evil person to want to steal a Bible from a daughter, and I married her.
Stephen had an A grade going into his final on one class and then missed the final. He went on the wrong day. I overheard his conversation with the professor, whom he telephoned to discover what he could do about making it up. He simply told the Prof that he had gone on the wrong day. The Prof made an appointment to discuss it with him. A problem is that Stephen is a very private person. I told him that the Prof didn’t know if he was out on a drunk or whatever. I thought that was unfair. The Prof had a right to know that on the day of the examination I was in the hospital for heart surgery, surgery serious enough that I had postponed having my glasses repaired or purchasing new overalls because I saw no use in wasting money if I turned up dead. Our house was in a state of total confusion at the time. As Stephen admitted to me, all he could think about at the time was my surgery. Of course the Professor has the power to decide, but the people I have known in the teaching profession would treat a student who missed class because his father was in surgery would treat the situation quite differently from one who missed because he had partied the night before – a dubious excuse I heard many times was “it was my grandmother’s (grandfather’s) funeral.
It has always been my policy to tell my children and those who worked for me WHY I was doing something or wanted something done. The result has been mixed for the children, some teachers don’t like to explain why they are doing something. Perhaps they don’t know. I recall one boy asking me in my sixth grade class why we had to study a particular subject and my answer, if not intelligent, satisfied him. I said that the Board of Education required this to be taught and they paid me to do it. It was not a democracy. If I wanted to keep my job, I’d do it. The result for me has been that of my eight children, seven of them still correspond with me routinely and the secretaries, assistants and co-workers all liked me. One young woman, my office assistant at WashingtonUniversity, was given the choice by her father of spending a year in Europe, of working on a Master’s Degree at any university she chose, or of continuing to work with me. I learned this when she showed me a new Pontiac convertible her father had purchased her as a consolation prize for staying with me. (She enjoyed me discussing with her all the details of the industrial testing work I was doing and why I was selecting which tests.)
As a last note, to those who have read this far. Sheila purchased a movie, “Walk Don’t Run,” with Cary Grant for about ten dollars at Amazon.com, which is the funniest thing I have seen in years. We laughed all the way through it. Anyone, teen-agers to ancient people like my brother will enjoy it. True of Gary Grant movies, no vulgarity, no obvious sexuality but a fair share of hilarious innuendo.